If God is So Faithful, Why Didn’t He Keep His Promises?

by Andy Wood on June 14, 2012

in Since You Asked

Promise.  It’s one of the most charming words in the English language.

Do you realize that so much of what we experience, of what we know about God, of our spiritual maturity, and of our success or failure in the Christian life has something to do with how we respond to the promises of God?  Peter says, “And because of his glory and excellence, he has given us great and precious promises. These are the promises that enable you to share his divine nature and escape the world’s corruption caused by human desires” (2 Peter 1:4).

But what do you do when you are standing on the promises and it doesn’t turn out like you expected?

What do you do when you wait on the Lord, and all you get in return is more waiting?

What do you do when you know – you know you’ve heard from the Lord about a specific situation, and it just doesn’t happen?

In short, what do you do when you’re disappointed with God?

With Friends Like That…

I want to introduce you to two people who experienced that kind of disappointment.  They were sisters, and friends of Jesus.  And so was their now-dead brother, Lazarus.  These siblings from Bethany offered Jesus and his troupe a home away from home – a refuge from the madness of His schedule and demands.  So when Lazarus became gravely ill and they sent for Jesus, these women knew He would be faithful to save the day.

But there were too many days to save.

Day one – no Jesus.

Day two – ditto.

Day three – my God, where is He?

Day four – Jesus finally appears, and on separate occasions, both of these women said the exact same thing to Him – “Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died.”

When Disappointment Collides with Hope

Other than those who traveled with Christ, nobody loved Jesus more than Mary and Martha, and the feeling was mutual.  But loving Jesus didn’t make them immune from disappointment, nor will it spare you.  In fact, sometimes the promises of God seem to directly contradict what we are experiencing.  Do the math here…

  • Day 1 – Lazarus gets sick, so Martha sends a message to Jesus, who is a day’s travel away.  Sometime just after the messenger leaves, Lazarus dies.
  • End of Day 2 – the messenger returns with no Jesus – just a promise:  “This sickness is not unto death, but for the glory of God.”  Seriously?  My brother is graveyard-dead and you’re sending a messenger with promises?
  • Day 3 – Jesus still doesn’t show up.
  • End of Day 4 – Finally He appears.  Thanks, Jesus. Glad you could make it.

What to Do with Your Disappointments with God

We know how this story turns out.  Martha and Mary didn’t.  They were hurt and confused and had no clue what this pain had to do with the glory of God that Jesus had promised.  And the ways they responded to this sense of unfulfilled promises from God can give us some anchors for our times of spiritual disappointment.

1.  Appeal to the love of Jesus.

“Lord, the one whom you love is ill.”  That’s the message they sent to Christ.  We don’t know what made Lazarus so special, but to Jesus Lazarus was more than just a believer or a follower.  He was a friend.

One of the reasons this is so important is not so you can try to manipulate God to do what you want Him to, but so you can keep in mind that God has never forsaken His ultimate promise to you – to love you unconditionally.

2.  Move toward Jesus, not away from Him.

“When Martha heard that Jesus was coming, she went to meet him” (v. 20).  Oh boy, here it comes.  We pick on Martha a lot because she’s easy to pick on.  But one thing I love about her is that even in her times of disappointment, pain, or lack of understanding, she moved toward Jesus, not away from Him.

That doesn’t come naturally to me, so when I see it in others it challenges me.  My tendency is to go into my cave and hide or pout.  But what neither Martha nor Mary knew at the time was that He was about to redefine what miracles look like if they would just trust Him and move toward Him.

3.  Respond to God’s call, whether you feel like it or not.

True to her personality, Mary waited back at the house until Jesus sent for her (v. 28).  Then she came to meet Him, just as Martha had done.  Did she feel like it?  I doubt it.  Did she respond because she knew what He was about to do?  No way.  She responded to His call because He called her, and she trusted Him – even when she didn’t understand Him.

Don’t be surprised if, in the midst of your spiritual disappointments, you feel pressed upon by God to do something.  Be somewhere.  Say something.  It could be something as simple as showing up in church or getting alone with Him.  But when He calls, respond.

4.  Express your disappointment to God.

Mary and Martha used the exact same words, but produced different reactions in Jesus.  But both were true to who they were and how they felt.  I don’t think God expects anything less from you.

Jesus, you could have done something, but you didn’t.

Jesus, you could have been here, but you weren’t.

Jesus, you could have warned me that something bad was going to happen, but you didn’t.

Jesus, you could have protected me from this hurt, but you didn’t.

One thing is sure – when you’re honest with yourself and with God about your pain, Jesus will respond as personally to you as he did to Mary and her sister.

5.  Focus on a relationship, not a religious system.

“Your brother will rise again,” Jesus said.

“Sure, at the Resurrection,” said Martha.  That’s what her religious system (and the Bible) taught. What Martha didn’t understand was that the Resurrection is not a thing – it’s a person, and she was looking at Him!

Promises aren’t things. They’re extensions of the heart and character of God.  They are gateways through which we partake of the divine nature, Peter says.  When you’re disappointed in God, set aside your systems for a minute and let Him be Father to you.  Talk to Him.  Listen to Him.  Give to Him and receive from Him.

6.  Look for the greater glory.

This is hard to see, much less hear from somebody else when you’re heart deep in sorrow or anger.  But I’ll say it anyway… Maybe it’s time to raise the bar of faith.

Sometimes we believe that when God didn’t seem to keep His promises to us it was because we’d raised the bar too high.  Maybe it is because we had it too low.  Twice in this passage, Jesus said they would see the glory of God.  And boy, did they.

If you’re standing on a promise and it doesn’t happen like you’d envisioned, gird up!  You’re may be about to see the glory of God in ways you hadn’t imagined.

Your disappointing experiences are opportunities for you to experience greater glory and deeper faith than you ever could without them.  Bring Him your hurts, your confusion, your broken heart.  Bring Him the sting of your disappointments and the fear you have in ever trusting Him again.  Bring Him your humiliation and your heartache and hurl it for all it’s worth at Him if you need to.  I think He’s big enough to take it.

But while you’re there, maybe you can prepare yourself to receive something back from Him.  After all, He’s faithful to deliver on what He has promised, whether you can make sense of it all or not.  Faith in the face of confusion and hurt is still faith.  And if you don’t see the promise on this side of eternity, guess what?

You’ll just have to plan to enjoy it forever, not just for your short time on this planet.

{ 28 comments… read them below or add one }

Skye July 9, 2014 at 12:24 am

This was nice, mainly because it was honest. It wasn’t just some generic blah about how we must’ve done something wrong or didn’t do something-as the cause of the prayer being unanswered. I’m so tired of hurting. I’m so tired of struggling and more than anything, I’m so tired of being faithful and not ever getting a yes. Now, I’m 48 hours away from being evicted, me and my disabled toddler. Called every church in the county, none would or could help. No social services. No money left in the car or in a jacket. And no God. That’s the part that hurts. Being this hopeful and dutiful to serving Him and he doesn’t answer or maybe he did as this seems like a big fat ‘no’ to me. Anyway, at least you didn’t do what other people do. You just told it like it is. Sometimes, the answer is no. The faithful ones will get it on the other side. I doubt if I’m included in that bunch. Pray for me, if you have faith, that I don’t wake up tomorrow. Thank you.

Richard January 8, 2016 at 1:57 pm

I’ve given up on believing. .I’ve prayed in agonizing tears for help and each time,and I do mean each time,it only gets worse. He said ask and it shall be given,but hats not true. I’ve been on my knees begging in utter dismay and and wailing with tears flowing heavily. What did I get?..only more grief. I can’t take being rejected by a loving God anymore. Either I’m eternally damned or he honestly just doesn’t love me. Either way my soul has been shredded by his rejection. I’ll do my remaining time on earth the best I can. My soon to be ex committed adultery and seems blessed beyond reason. I’ve lost everything while trying to raise a grandson who is also affected by his not caring. I can’t in my heart believe anymore that he helps if we humble ourselves before him because he doesn’t . It ALWAYS gets worse!

Joshua February 15, 2016 at 5:37 pm

I am EXTREMELY disappointed with God. I do my best to do the right thing, I even go out of my way to be humble and let others go before me, in traffic and in real life. Oh you’re hungry so am I, but you go first. Oh do you need something? Though I have little I will give you what I have.

All of these I have done!!!! Many times!! And now I am starving yes literally, and I have nowhere to go, the homeless shelter will not let me in! Yet even though I did not feel like thanking God I got on my knees to give thanks in a freaking bathroom! A public bathroom in a dirty floor! most people barely bow their heads, I got on my knees, BOTH OF THEM!!

Yet God has not fed me or anything! I have to get to work and I am running out of gas! When I had little money I STILL GAVE TO SOMEONE ELSE, I even GAVE TO MY CHURCH OUT OF WHAT LITTLE MONEY I HAD! I could have used that money to eat and get gas, but no I didn’t!!

Today I let some people in traffic go and this super arrogant man in his faster car makes me look like a fool! Because I humbled myself to care for others! THIS IS NOT RIGHT!!! None of this is right!!

I change my ways, I don’t drink when I could have, I didn’t have intercourse when I could have, and in spite of these circumstances of sleeping in my car in the cold and being terrorized and humiliated by people who drive by looking at me, I still give thanks to the Lord!

And I get nothing! I am still here now at this dreaded school typing this crap!

What loving God lets his followers starve, be out in the cold and suffer like this after I make MANY MANY ATTEMPTS AND GO OUT OF MY WAY TO DO GOOD TO OTHERS JUST TO SUFFER!?

You know that money I gave to the church, I could use that, that food I bought some homeless lady (like myself), I could have used that!

Job did not go through what I have been through! NO ONE DID!!!



Andy Wood May 5, 2016 at 6:55 am

Dear Skye, Richard and Joshua,

Thank you for taking the time to write out of your pain, disappointment, and obvious anger toward God. Many of the situations you describe are ones I can deal with personally. Others, obviously, I can’t and have no clue what you are feeling.

It is interesting to me that some of the language you use is also found in the Bible, as people like David, Jeremiah, and Job hurled at God out of their pain and disappointment. Jeremiah actually called God a liar and lived to tell about it. I have learned He is big enough to take it.

The one thing I wish in reading the story of Job – or my story or your story – is that God had actually given Job reasons that made sense to Job. He never did. He simply said, “I am here and I am God and you aren’t.” What I do know, both from personal experience and from what scripture teaches, are some foundational truths I have lived long enough to see.

1. God has forever settled His love for me, regardless of my circumstances. There is no injustice, grief, pain or loss that could ever take away the scandalous love that He displayed for me, a hopeless sinner, in giving His Son as a sacrifice for my sin.

2. There is no possible way to estimate or describe the depths of evil that this world has reduced itself to, driven by three forces – pleasure at the expense of your pain, profit at the expense of your poverty, and pride at the expense of your humiliation (1 John 2:16). In addition to that, we ourselves have added to that misery by our own actions or failures to act. And regardless of our failures, sorrows or victimization in this world, they aren’t God’s fault.

3. There are times when it feels as though I have earned something from God because of some good things I have done. Therefore when he doesn’t come through as I have desired or expected, He seems to be terribly unfair at best, “evil as crap” as you put it, at worst. But that perception is the voice of my pain and disappointment or the voice of an enemy whispering in my ear – an enemy that seeks to “steal, kill, and destroy” (John 10:10). But the honest truth is that if we all got what we deserved, we would all perish – not just immediately, but eternally.

4. For a true believer in Christ, he or she can cling to the promise that no Christian has ever suffered alone or without help. Sometimes the help comes in the form of relief. Sometimes it comes in the form of walking with you through the sorrow, suffering and unanswered questions.

5. The end of the story has yet to be told about you. David once described his agony like this (my paraphrase): “My tears have been my only companion day and night, while they taunt me – WHERE IS YOUR GOD?” Based on some of your reactions, I think you can relate. I know I can. But I also know that we’re all still on the journey and your story is still being told/written.

6. For whatever reason, things have a way of getting worse before they get better. This one has never made sense to me, at least not emotionally. I lost count of the number of times it seemed as though I made good choices (at least they were good in my view) but continued to get painful results. At one point I said, “I have done everything anybody asked or suggested I do, and nothing works!” At another point I wrote in my journal, “If one more person tells me my solution is to wait on God, I think I’m going to punch him in the face.” But you know what? They eventually got better.

7. Regardless of what you have lost, and your losses have been great, as believers in Christ there are two things we always have. You still have Jesus and you still have a choice. I wish I could say I had made that up myself. But my pastor actually said those words to me as I was on a pay phone in a behavioral hospital, having lost everything that meant anything to me. I would say the same things to you. Regardless of what is taken from you, you still have Jesus and you still have choices.

8. Our greater hope is not in this life, but in eternity. We often live as if this world is all there is, and people who pine away about happier days in heaven seem like escapists. But it’s true. The day will come when He will wipe every tear from your eye and there will be no more sickness, sorrow, poverty or pain.

9. God loves it when we trust Him. But one thing is greater than faith, and that’s desperation. This is where we pray things like, “Lord I believe… help my unbelief!” When we are hurting it’s hard to find a place of faith to hang onto. So I dare you to pray that biblical prayer: “God give me the grace to believe you when really right now I don’t trust you at all.

I know the pain feels endless. I know it doesn’t seem fair. I know it all appears to be God’s fault. But pain is a mocker and appearances are deceiving.

Whether you can feel it or not or see evidence of it or not, the truth is that you have never been loved more by God than you are right now. And though He may feel a million miles away, in truth He is as close as your next breath.

Dorine June 23, 2016 at 5:53 pm

Exhausted….it’s where I’m at. I’ve struggled All My Life. Many nights of crying and at any time of the day…While gardening, taking a walk, in the shower I find myself feeling so alone. Asking myself the same question “where is God?”. I’ve Prayed so much …I’m all prayed out. I’m so exhausted that I find myself lost in words. I’ve been a Christian for many years and I’ve never felt so abandant. I’ve become so depressed. I found that everyone I’ve talked to tells me the same thing.
The Bible talks about Gods Love, Grace and Mercy….
How does anyone attain any of these? God has a Plan for us…How are we suppose to have Faith in God? We know that God can, We need to have Faith that God will. Really? What if what we’re asking God for isn’t in His Plan for us and we continue to beleive that God will…..Anyone would eventually lose Faith.
The thought of asking God for anything anymore makes me feel sick to my stomach (literally). I try to keep my mind off of God. It pains me to even think that I have a God who’s suppose to love me unconditional and knows all the hurt I’m going through but doesn’t show any Grace, Mercy, or Peace. I can’t do this anymore. God chooses who he wants to Favor. Unfortunantly I’m not one of them.

Anna July 8, 2016 at 2:57 pm

I feel exactly the same way! You’re not alone! I do not understand why God acts this way and articles like the one above used to cause great pain before, but time heals. Now, I look at them objectively and see this type of Christians as ones with a veil over their eyes, as this type of suffering is not open to them, they have not experienced such grief and rejection by the one who promised to never leave us or for sake us, to always be there when we call, to be our strong tower, our shepherd that will leave 99 sheep to go look and care for the lost one… They try to explain to people like us something that they have no answers for and talk about something they themselves have not experienced. If Old Testament according to the author above has promises only for Israelites, then what about all of the promises from New Testament? So according to this logic God requires and asks us for obedience, and sacrifice but in exchange offers suffering, rejection not only by others, but himself as well while we are in the flesh? Also, God himself said: “Beware of false prophets. They come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ravenous wolves. 16By their fruit you will recognize them. Are grapes gathered from thornbushes, or figs from thistles? 17Likewise, every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit.…” (Mathew 7:15-17) I apply this principle to everyone in my life including God. Why should one believe that they are loved by God if they pray and he does not hear, they ask and he does not reply. I don’t care how many times Bible or God or a person will say “I love you,” if it is not followed up by action from him/her then it is just empty words to me…What helped me to start feeling better in relation of feeling as if God time after time rejected me, while he showered other fellow Christians with love and attention, is to stop going to church and spend time away from all Christian people, music etc. Just spend time focusing on happy thoughts, learning what it means to love yourself inside and out, do things that bring joy to you and try to seek answers outside of the Bible. See what else is out there that talks about what God is like, how spiritual laws work, who we are as spiritual beings and why some suffer great deal and some very little. . Three years later, I am able to read the Bible again, but this time with a sole purpose to find the answers as to why God treats some of us so different and what is it that maybe was taught incorrectly to me, or I personally maybe misunderstood. I also look at other religions, theories and beliefs and examine them in order to find clues and explanations as to what I am experiencing. I do not follow any of those religions or beliefs, but I use them to make sense of my experience. I feel as if the Bible has missing pieces or that we deeply misunderstood something. I still feel pain inside and rejection by God sometimes, but not anywhere near as to what it was in the beginning. I feel happy most of the time and I am asking you to Love Yourself like you would want to be loved by God, take care of yourself and NEVER GIVE UP ON YOURSELF! There is a reason why Jesus said that KINGDOM OF HEAVEN IS INSIDE OF YOU! I believe that our soul and spirit are the biggest treasures, LOOK INSIDE YOURSELF! USE YOUR PAIN A STEP ON THE LADDER TO A SPIRITUAL AWAKENING AND GROWTH! Look at different perspectives on who we are as beings in different cultures and faiths, see if something will help you feel less abandoned and rejected by the Creator…It helped me, maybe it will help you.

Dorine July 11, 2016 at 8:56 pm

Thank you Anna for such an honest response. As much as I try not to, I find Myself continuing calling out to God. Im so tired of praying to God and hoping to see a difference in my day but end up feeling so empty and disappointed at the end of each day.
Thank you again Anna for taking the time to help. Knowing that I’m not alone in the way I feel is so comforting. Your Freind, Dorine

David July 16, 2016 at 1:02 pm

My Christian experience began in 2003 when I started to listen to sermons. I lost all my friends because I became a Christian. I read the bible from cover to cover, prayed for strength and victory over my sins and power to become a blessing to others.
Gods word is full of promises but in all honesty for me these promises have not been realized. I know that this is not only a problem for me. Anyone who denies this doesn’t do God any favors. What hurts most is coming to the realization that you were wrong in your assumption that God would do what you believed he would do.
It’s like a death of self. I don’t know the answers to this obvious problem. Maybe the answer is somewhere in the words that Jesus spoke about the poor in spirit being blessed and the first being last and the last first.
Cold comfort for a person who is suffering now.

Helen Schirmer July 25, 2016 at 6:04 pm

The parable of Jesus, Lazarus, Mary, and Martha is not an example of the broken promises from God we experience at all. Jesus ended up bringing back to life after delaying his arrival by only 2-3 days. Such a short period of time to wait and Jesus brought him back to life. This topic was referring to scriptual included in the Bible. No comparison to reading scripture where we are told to pray to God the honest desires of our hearts and he will give them to us. You wait a few years and see nothing in spite of deep loneliness and depression. Now tbat is a broken promise.
We cannot beg, nag or cajole God into action. Our tears do not move him either. We understand that. We are not even permitted to know why he does nothing or won’t answer. We are flawed humans with limited brains to reason intentionally made to not know God’s mind. To avoid disappointment in your prayers, do not have expectancy or certainty. There is no pattern or consistency to see demonstrated from God. We should always realize he is unpredictable. We are told there is a huge litany of reasons why he does not take action for us, even if it is good thing and the Bible declares he will do it. It appears it is intentional that we cannot understand.
Of course, we are always faulted for giving up and no longer have faith. Christianity is a religion of constant guilt and self blame for our shortcomings. It kills our prayer life.

Helen Schirmer September 1, 2016 at 2:54 pm

God does Not deliver on his promises. He is random and capricious. He even get glory from our suffering and pain which is stated in the Bible. Must be why he allows it so much in people struggling to believe. Yet deliverance is NOT promised.
Only says he is with us. I guess sitting back in a lawn chair and feeling glorious and watching us suffer. How does being told God is with you who has the control to
stop the pain or deliver you from it, give you comfort or hope? It only shows we do not understand God and neither does he intend us to. He hears our cries but is not moved to action. Yet expects us to have faith in him. Then scripture
guilts and condemns us for lack of faith. It is a losing battle.

Jonathan September 18, 2016 at 6:20 pm

I’m exactly where dorine is. It makes me sick to think the more loving and good people tell me God is, that should make him be here and more caring. It makes him look even worse and even less likable. But guess what? The end times are here, and we have bigger problems to worry about. Personally God promised me a wife. I was very excited to meet her, God would share things about her. 23″” now how do you expect me to be married when tribulation is here? We will have hard enough time not being pulled into fema camps and tortured and finding food let alone finding a woman or a mate to enjoy life with. That dream and promise flew out the bag pretty quick. Will I lay down my Isaac? Sure, what choice or hope do I have ? Who cares anymore what I ever wanted. Gods plan, his way. So much for hoping. Heaven is a bigger hope though, cause I had a feeling if I did get married he would make it al problems trials and issues anyways. I just don’t like promising more then you can deliver. Especially from a God. Especially. My sadness is gone, my anger is gone. I really could care less. Do not get your hopes up. Just shit up and deny yourself so you’re counted worthy.

Lisa November 7, 2016 at 11:17 am

I loved this article! I was feeling so sad and scared because of a situation and Andy’s words gave me comfort in my pain and hope in the midst of fear! I too have struggled with depression for most of my life. The LORD has healed me greatly, but I don’t know if anyone ever becomes immune to anxiety/negative thoughts completely. Years ago the LORD’s Holy Spirit said to me one time, “You have to be willing to let (the LORD) heal you.”
Psychological healing is not only a choice it is WORK. As the saying goes, ” Nothing worth having ever comes easy. ” Another related message is, ” Good things come to those who wait.” I believe that Joyce Meyer explains how to overcome hopelessness and fear wonderfully in her book, “The Battefield of the mind.”
To those who commented above and others who feel stuck in the mud and mire of sadness, fear, anger and depression, my heart goes out to you!
Be aware that the Holy Spirit is an ENCOURAGER and Satan is a DISCOURAGER!
When your thoughts bring you down, examine them. Put them into either catagory- encouraging or discouraging and realize who is speaking to you at that moment. Is it Jesus or Satan?
Also be open to the reality that everything that we want is not GOOD for us. Ask for God to give you HIS best for you and your life. HE WILL. God is not a man that He should lie! Satan is a liar! Those are both scriptures and are infailable. If God gives you a promise He will keep it. All good gifts come down from the Father of Heavenly lights.
Also try remember all the things Andy said in his article. I will too! Let’s keep fighting the good fight together. I pray right now that God shows each of us, including Andy, how faithful He is to give us want He has promised us individually IN THIS LIFETIME. In JESUS precious name I pray, AMEN THANK YOU GOD WE LOVE YOU!

Lisa November 7, 2016 at 11:31 am

P.S. I also pray that AFTER the LORD shows each us us how He has been faithful to us regarding the fulfillment of those promises He has given us, that WE will be faithful to tell OTHERS what JESUS CHRIST HAS DONE FOR US, so that He gets all the glory and others will place all their hope in HIM too. In Jesus name AMEN

Jim November 14, 2016 at 5:55 pm

Been there, done that, bought the Bible. Back stabbed by those who I had helped, several of whom after this came for help to me, again and I provided it.

Gave a car to a guy who was on relief, and had so little money he sourced all his food from a food shelter. Was bored one day, and asked him to go with me for a cup of coffee. Told me (through my wife) that he couldn’t go because “we just didn’t click.”

Helped a gal get a divorce from her cheating husband, and bought Christmas and birthday gifts for her three girls when ol’ daddy couldn’t be bothered, and when it came time to event email me to say hi, and ask how I was doing, and, shocker, nada.

Helped a guy at work who was terrified of losing his job because he lost an important account. When I lost my job for unrelated reasons, and called him to see if there were any jobs at his new place of work. Guess what? No answers to my emails or voice mails.

Gave a sister $100 a week to help with her expenses when she lost her job. Recently asked her if I could stay at her place while I took a job where she lived (no jobs were available where I lived) to make enough money to pay the mortgage at my house. Nope, no can do bro.

Asked my brother, who also lived in another town, the same question, and was told he couldn’t as there wasn’t enough space in his apartment. Apparently even giving me the floor to sleep on in a sleeping bag was just too imposing.

And, BY FAR THE WORST OF ALL, NADA, ZERO, ZIP, NOTHING from my “loving, “caring, Never will leave nor forsake you God”, even though I had give $10,000 to a gal at my church to found a church dedicated to Him in a poor neighborhood.

No money, no job, not even a piffling “I with ya buddy” from God. And yet I still praised and thanked Him. I no longer do so, as God, yes, EVEN GOD cannot call Himself loving and giving with this amount of promises made and not even a little bit kept. Sorry, God, but you have criteria to meet or you are NOT a loving God, PERIOD, and You have met them. Exit stage right, wrong, or indifferent.

Melanie April 11, 2017 at 2:07 pm

Jim and others I felt compelled to share my story. My husband moved out May 2015 due to an adulterous relationship. Leaving behind me and our four children. I was facing eviction and my prodigal husband didnt care nor did he provide financial support. I thought my world had ended; at the time death seem better. I was unemployed no money to pay bills or support my children. I put my resume together and began applying for jobs. I received several called backs form 3 school districts. I went on the interviews and waited for call backs.I cried out my the God of Isaac, Abraham and Jacob for help. Someone told me of a place where I can go to get help. The first place I went to I was denied and so did the 2nd place. On my way to the 3rd place my cousin called and said the favor of God is on you…at that time I didn’t want to hear about Gods favor I couldn’t wrapped my head around all that I was facing. As I got to the organization I was greeted with love I broke down into tears again feeling overwhelmed with my husband betrayal. The woman said to me we will help you pay uour rent and utilities and help you to get emergency foodstamps. I couldn’t stop crying then I remembered my cousin say the favor of God is with you. Finally I received call backa from all 3 schools offering me a partime position. I accepted the one that was closed to my home then a fulltime staff left and I was offered the fulltime position. But God! At time time the damage was done to my credit and still is but I give God the glory for what hr has done. Let talk aboit the promises of God: God showed me that he will restore my marriage; he has given me dream and not just me my two children also had thw same dream of my husband and I being back together. February 2017 I received divorced papers I was disappointed because I said God you didn’t ahow me divorce, rather, you ahowed me restoration. I was confused and discouraged again. On April 10, 2017 my husband and I headed to family court, he didn’t put up a fight he told them to give me what I asked for. He even give me a ride home then came inside and hangout with the kids, cooked dinner before he left. That was no body but Jesus ahowing me he is working. My husband and I have to return back to court in July 2017 to finalize the divorce. Even though my marriage is not where I want it to be all I can do is hold on to God promises. God cannot lie and will fulfill his promises. I’ve kept a diary of my dreams and my children’s based on the promises of God. One day when all is restored it will be use as a testimony to help others. God is faithful! I’ve learned in this world we will have struggles, sorrows, problems, sickness, etc. But we must press through and over come through Jesus Christ. Its difficult I know but we cannot turn away from God because things didn’t work out on our time. My advise to anyone whom have turned away from God is to repent and get back on track trusting God again regardless to what you’re facing. Please be encouraged!

Sammy August 18, 2017 at 8:50 am

No good will come from allowing my wife and children to suffer lack….of food, of clothes/shoes, of an education. WHAT eternal lesson do I learn watching my 7 year old go hungry? Not all things work for my good, especially not watching my children go hungry? Why tell me that you will never leave me nor forsake me when you have abandon me to poverty and lack? What was the point of tell me that I shouldn’t worry since you’d feed me, clothe me and give me shelter. All I know is the disgrace of poverty. I’m worse than a heathen for I cannot provide for my family.
If I could, I’d take my people and hid from you….when I said yes to you 16yts ago, I thought that you’d change my life, change everything about my life….yes, am going to heaven but surely I didn’t sign up to live a life without divine favor or victory?
You have dealt with me like an enemy. Lord Jesus, what happened to you?

Lee May 31, 2018 at 6:11 am

Why are these blogs all the same?? They ALWAYS state that the issue of undelivered promises is somehow OUR fault?? Hang on!! Nobody truly can see or even understand God yet when the matters are unanswered its always assumed the recipient is at fault!!
What if the recipient, being imperfect and weak ran of of stamina waiting for God to arrive?? Sure God would know how much that person can go, right?
We cry out to Him with our hearts and HOPE He will keep is promises, then we wait and wait and wait and NOTHING!!
I am so tired of deluded christians who have so great lives looking down on those who are really struggling and arrogantly assuming that they lack faith etc when sometimes GOD is the one who doesn’t give clarity!!

Lee May 31, 2018 at 6:18 am

Notice there are NO responses of HOPE from anyone running this fcking page??

Well-to-do arrogant self seeking xtians full of pride and arrogance dressed up as LOVE!

What a load of bollox!

Shurri July 1, 2018 at 7:44 pm

He is trying to build and establish a relationship with you. The Devil greatest trick is to make you into disbelief. God says when you seek him with all your heart you will find him. Declaring his word and promises over your life everyday is the faith he wants you to have. When all things are falling apart the bigger the blessings. You also have to rebuke the devil by the words God spoke. Remember you are the head and not the tail . No weapon formed against you shall prosper. They will form but not prosper. I’m praying for you all .

Kervy July 28, 2018 at 9:27 am

Shurri is right, God is not a liar. I too have so many problems in life, so many unfair situations. But still I don’t have the right to complain to Him. Job is faithful, but even HIM HAS NO RIGHT TO COMPLAIN TO GOD! Even Paul suffered more than you guys, did they complain!? O cmon! People! With traits like that, it seems tho you’re not really reading your Bible!

Renee July 29, 2018 at 3:31 am

I have read some of y’all comments when folks says God did not come thru as he promised. Well first of all, God does not lie or break his promises. If he say he will do it, he will. Remember if God did not speaks to you and tell you this is going to happen and if he didn’t comes thru his voice or been confirmed, its not from God. So please for the one who says God promise you something that he said he would and didn’t come thru, It wasn’t from God voice. When God promises you something it will happen. But if we don’t have faith in God then it wouldn’t happen because we don’t believe. Trust God and be happy and stop doubting. Because we can be angry about something because the enemy comes thru us and having us Doubt God. So by us not being patient and let negative things comes into us, so when something doesn’t come thru quickly then we feel God fail his promise. No he didn’t he waiting for us to trust him. And all this what I read that you rather worship Satan, bad choice you want get nothing but lies disappointment in your life. God doesn’t lie

Bill Johnson February 5, 2019 at 1:19 pm

Yes! Thanks for the (all too rare) breath of honesty. So many people… GOD’S people, hurting in indescribable ways! It’s not right. Too many of us feel like the family of a man who abandoned us, leaving us destitute and at the mercy of creditors and thieves. The biggest lie of all, “God is not a man that He should lie…” Really? With all this evidence to the contrary? God has every trait of a clinical narcissist, and of course, it’s ALWAYS OUR FAULT when He doesn’t come through. “Ever-present help” my foot! The shepherd left the gate open for the wolves, and blames the sheep for letting themselves get eaten. What’s wrong with this picture?! If there’s no help in this life, why should I believe in help after I’m dead?

Yonatan February 27, 2019 at 6:00 am

I won’t speak of Jesus, because I don’t know anything about the Jew, but I will about G-d.

If G-d can let more than a billion unborn children die due to abortion and because G-d has watched hundreds of millions die in war, despite their desperate cries for mercy and deliverance, it should tell you something… G-d is not killing us, we are killing us. G-d has given us freedom, bitter-sweet freedom. We are our own destruction, yet we look to G-d for solutions to our own created problems. Ever more, we are not ready for Moshiach, nor are we even willing to accept Moshiach, despite the fact that the Servant is already here on earth right now!

When we speak of suffering we speak as if sin was already paid for and removed, if so such harbingers like disease wouldn’t exist. However, disease does exist because it hasn’t been paid for, and because it cannot be paid for, we suffer continually. It nags us like a festering wound, non-stop… Death is the end of the line, because sin has not been paid! We fell and we are beneath G-d, and we will forever be beneath Him, even though He originally made us perfected, but again we destroyed that, not Him… we did not follow the rules.

But we can accept our frailty and our sin and move back to G-d, and begin a process of healing so that our relationship with Him is perfected. I don’t know much about G-d, but I do know that He is perfect and blameless and kind, and that He loves us with a deep heart, feeling the full extent of our own pain… when our spirit is hurt, He knows it, He feels it… G-d suffers with you.

Our very own spirit came from Him, and because of that we are a part of Him, and in the end, no matter what we have or haven’t done, that spirit part of us will go back to Him. Just know He loves you so very much, and that everything is in its proper place and progressing in His perfect timing.

May Your Strength Remain.

david June 4, 2019 at 1:19 am

how amazing is it that so many christians are in the same boat. as one person wrote and it was my thoughts. that mary and martha had only days to wait. i have been a christian for over 30 years and i cant recall a single answer to prayer. maybe God did answer, but im certainly not aware of it. He does seem to favour some people over others even though he says he is no respecter of people. he does promise that if we call he will answer.. when? i am also weary and exhausted holding on to the promises. over 30 years is enough. life doesnt make sense without God but as for the rest we have either been taught wrong or believed wrong. after salvation we are on our own.. make your own way.

Cameron June 4, 2019 at 6:55 am

I heard preachers make promises about God for years, believed in them only to never see them come true. The church never offered any friendships out of it. I worked in the church for years and no one ever invited me into their inner circles. So, I quit church. I believe most of the things preachers preach is utter crap to put butts in their seats. I’ve told God this and not once has he said, “you’re wrong.” Not once.

I told God, I will not listen to these preachers any more because I feel lied to, cheated out of money and have no friends from church to speak of. Honestly, Christians are usually the last people you want to be friends with. They take and take and never give from what I’ve seen. They are quick to gossip about you, stab you in the back, etc., etc. I think it is rare to find a true Christian. The rest are dabblers and fill most churches, aka the country clubs.

I came to the conclusion most churches in America are just country clubs for the middle class and higher. If you’re not married and/or a professional (middle class or higher), they want nothing to do with you outside of church. They want successful people and no one else. Singles are leaving churches in droves I’ve read.

Honestly, at your church, do you see people saying, “God healed me of this and that” often? I didn’t see it much. I never even heard once in the catholic church I went to for over a decade. If God is really in a church, especially since he is pouring out his spirit on the world in these last days, I would suspect you’d see miracles quite often, and you’d see the church growing, which I didn’t see either. Apparently, they do in S. America and Asian churches all the time. God is even still happening in Russia. But America is deader than a door nail.

I base my Christianity on 4 things: salvation, grace, Jesus offer of peace and Jesus’s two commandments. The rest is gravy. I lean on about 5 Scriptures and that’s it. It’s simple, it works and doesn’t p— me off. If you follow Jesus’s two commandments, you’ll be a good person by almost anyone’s standards.

The early church didn’t have churches. They met in people’s homes and God moved in spectacular ways. The elders went here and there, prayed for people and people got healed of all kinds of maladies. Do you see that today in American churches? Nope.

No, but you see big buildings, massive choirs, light shows, electronic wizardry, expensive sound equipment, etc., etc. And, few, if any, miracles to speak of. The fruit is just not there.

The American church has become a country club for “elite” Christians most of the time, and big into politics. If I want politics, I’ll go to a rally. I don’t go to church to be told how and who to vote for and what to support and not support.

Marija June 18, 2019 at 11:51 pm

People, listen to your common sense as well! If you don’t have money, why are you giving it away to other people? Is God to blame for your poor financial decisions?
We are saved by faith, not by works, so nobody can boast. If you’re willingly giving the money that you don’t have, how on Earth is God’s fault if you end up penniless.
Use your common wisdom as well, God also gave you the brain.
And if other people disappointed you, welcome to the planet Earth. We people tend to do that to ourselves.
I also have my fits with God daily! I love him (and hate him!) more than anything and even if I left the Church, what good would that do when I’m 100% He exists and that He does love me and care for me, despite of my mainly negative feelings towards him?
I’ve been praying hard for a long time now. And guess what? Nothing.
His silence is awful.
I believe in Him because He revealed to me in very material and empirical way. I can say I have my own proof of His existance and His Love for me.
When I love Him, I adore Him, I worship Him, I feel all the Psalms of adoration inside my soul. I go wild for Him and even envy early martyrs that they could die for Him! I literally feel wild from love and being in love and in awe for Him!

But, people, when I hate Him, I feel all of your sorrows combined. I rip my rosaries, throw away Bible across the room, blaspheme, swear at Him, use vulgar words, tell Him that I hate Him and that I’m leaving Him forever. I’m sad to say that my hatered is deeper than my love is, when that happens.

I so so so so soooo want Him to manifests gloriously in your lives.
But I cannot be His advocate either. There is simply TOO MUCH PAIN AND INJUSTICE.

I don’t have any smart words to conclude with. I am pissed and hurt as much as all of you are.
Just wanted to say, use your wisdom and brain as well, not just the faith.

If I ever see Him, my first question will be why he allows all that suffering. I would want to read with Him every one of you comments and hear His comments!

Bruce August 24, 2019 at 8:38 pm

I just want to say that I enjoy this site.
It is real, painful, honest and also uplifting.
I’ve been blessed to feel anger and joy toward
the Lord throughout my life. We don’t need to
hide our feelings from Him. He already knows them (smile).
But I am still happy that i know Him and will soon
see Him face-to-face.
For me, since I know we live in a broken world (warts and all)
I am not expecting a rose garden. I am just happy that
it will soon be set right by Him.
In the Name of Jesus Christ,
may all who read from this site be eternally blessed.

Jason September 30, 2019 at 6:14 pm

“The thought of asking God for anything anymore makes me feel sick to my stomach (literally). I try to keep my mind off of God. It pains me to even think that I have a God who’s suppose to love me unconditional and knows all the hurt I’m going through but doesn’t show any Grace, Mercy, or Peace. I can’t do this anymore. God chooses who he wants to Favor. Unfortunately I’m not one of them.”

That paragraph Dorine posted back in 2016 about covers my life. I don’t feel God loves me, I feel He’s indifferent toward me. Not even hate…I just don’t matter to Him. God will just favor who He wants, and the heck with the rest of us. Sure, we’ll all eventually go to heaven, but a lot of us will suffer horrible lives because God doesn’t think we’re worth blessing at all. Like we’re unwanted step children.

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